Do you know?

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Do you know what really matters to you?

And do you think of it often, driving towards it with each decision?

Or perhaps you just drift along, wondering if you will ever find it.

How valuable do you think it would be to know clearly what it is that drives you most in life?

What sacrifices would you be willing to make to find what matters most?

It’s possible that you could increase your passion, excitement, and even income by doing so.

Are you willing?

What action will you take today?

Clear Committed Communication

How clear is your communication?

How committed?

If it’s not, no wonder you are confused.

Guaranteed way to get stuck

In relating to people, do you relate to them based on circumstances or based on your vision?

Imagine for a minute that your vision is to be loving.

Then, someone does something that upsets you.

Do you become judgmental of them and what they did and how you can’t believe they did it.

Or…do you choose your vision – to be loving despite circumstances – by actually talking to them about what happened in a loving and honest way, seeking clarity, etc.

If you live based on your own judgments and circumstances, you leave a lot of opportunities on the table.

I guarantee you the best way to get stuck is to be judgmental of yourself and others. And then find people who judge like you do and tell them about your judgments. And talk about your judgments.

It sure is a great way to avoid the intimacy we long for.

Is your story serving your future?

Looking back on your life, you have a story. We all do.

Do you think it is possible to rewrite or reframe your story?

I believe it is. Here is an example.

When I was in 6th grade, I had a girlfriend who was popular named Amber. Before Amber dated me, she dated a popular guy named Mike.

And then one day, Mike and his cool friends informed me that Mike and Amber were going out again. This was news so me because Amber never actually broke up with me.

I was crushed.

Now, I can share the story in a way that focuses on myself and how this horrible thing happened to me.

But what if I told the story in a new way. What if I went back and considered what God might have been wanting to teach me through my life. What if I could go back and be curious about why Mike and his friends were being mean to people.

Maybe God was wanting me to see what happens when people act out of self interest. And for me to see the times I currently act out of self interest. And how that might affect others around me.

If it were possible to re-imagine your story in a way that serves your future vision, would you be up for the challenge?

A room full of curious

Do you judge your judgments?

Assess your assessments?

Challenge your assumptions?

Interpret your interpretations?

Set down your camera for the sake of seeing another viewpoint?

Or do you simply live in a reality illusion?

One approach creates and invites a room full of curiosity, perspective, openness, and the unprecedented.

The other: arrogance, limitation, judgment, and the same old thing.

Definitely. Nothing. New.

On a scale from 1-10, how curious are you?

Finding your vision

In much of my work with my clients, one of the challenges is working alongside someone in finding their vision/revolution.

There are a couple of primary ways I have found to look at this. Both are important.

1. A career or major difference you will make in the world. (more challenging to find, most “careers” involve wearing many different hats, outside of your career – you will wear many different hats [friend, spouse, parent, customer, etc.], so really this becomes about finding what you want to be doing the MOST with your time [editing photos or video, leading a team, strategic planning, story development, accounting, etc.], etc.

2. The experience you long for in your soul and the experience you are committed to cause in the lives of others. (can be challenging to find, easier to explore multiple options than #1 – i.e. it would be difficult to try a new career every week or even every month yet with this one – if your desired “experience” was intimacy – you could try that for a time and see if it fits and then switch to generosity and see if that more closely lines up with your heart). [Common examples: intimacy, generosity, confidence, freedom, vulnerability, courage, etc.]

This particular post is going to focus more on #2 because I think it is the more essential of the 2. The reason I say this is that it will transcend career, circumstance, role, etc. Once you find that one or maybe even two or three experiences that you long for and are committed to cause in your own life and in the lives of others, it can be in your mind from – the moment you wake up, to interacting with the barista, to greeting your coworkers, to meeting with your team, to dealing with conflict, to having lunch with a coworker, to going to your kids ball game or dance recital, to going on a date, to working on a side startup business, to … well … you get the idea.

Imagine you could drive and encounter an experience that gives you indescribable amounts of energy throughout the facets of your life.

When I see someone find this committed experience, I have seen him/her find a passion and drive and excitement beyond words.

Have you discovered it yet?

Are you willing to put in the mental labor in to choose it?

What is the experience you long for in life? Wouldn’t you love if you could cause that in yourself and others?

One way to overcome fear

I have often wondered how to overcome my fears.

Fear of failure, embarrassment, heartbreak, etc.

As in, what can I do today in order to silence the fear that holds me back?

I used to think I could just pray for more courage or hope it would somehow find me.

I don’t really think that way anymore.

In much of my reading recently, I have realized that one of the best ways to run from fear is to run towards passion.

To find something, anything, that I am insanely passionate about seeing in the world and in the lives of others – and focus on that.

And when I do that, my fear begins to subside, almost without me thinking about it.

What are you so passionate about that it helps you overcome your fears?

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