Which way will you lean?

Think about this moment you are in right now.

And who you are choosing to be.



The person you are choosing to be right now is based on one of two things.

The past.


The future.

One of those two options you are actually capable of doing something about.

I want you to like me

When my M.O. is wanting people to like me, what do you think that communicates to others?

I’m pretty sure it doesn’t communicate what I think I want it to communicate.

Most often, “I want you to like me” translates to “I want you to like the BS facade I put up around you.”

We mask this all behind pretending we live our lives to serve others when at the end of the day – making choices based on our desire to be like has way more to do with serving ourselves.

I’m not so concerned about you liking me. I’m way more committed to you knowing I would take a bullet for you.

You may have given up

Before all this happened, I didn’t believe it could.

I didn’t even know it was in the realm of possibility.

I didn’t think I could get up from my work and think: “I want to be this fulfilled always.”


Actually, beyond impossible. I didn’t even know it existed.

And then, here I am, sitting here with two dear friends, about to create a 1 minute video to win a contest.

And strategizing on practical ways to make your life better.

And being comfortable in my own skin.






Whatever it is you don’t think is possible.

You. Are. Wrong.

You may have given up, but you can quit that too.

Deliberately Inviting – Part 1

Up until a couple of weeks ago, I had a “theoretical” understanding of what it meant to be so committed to living into the impossible that I could actually invite others to live into the impossible as well. i.e. being committed to doing things in the future that currently seem impossible

And then my wife Sarah and I met Fay.

And the theoretical turned practical.

Fay is the founder of Deliberate Life magazine. (www.deliberatelifemag.com). Do yourself a favor and subscribe.

Fay takes “all in” to a whole new level. So much so that – without asking (and she probably doesn’t even know this) – she has invited Sarah and I into a new level of committing to a life of finding possibility in the face of limitation.

Finding a way when nobody thought there was one.

Just by the way she lives.

She is an invitation into the crazy impossibly committed life that most think is ridiculous but for those of us who think mediocrity and predictability is boring and sucks – well – we love it.

She didn’t have to force some manifesto on us. She lived the manifesto for us. And for you.

It’s inconceivable to invite others to believe in and live into the impossible if you aren’t willing to leap first – and keep leaping until things happen.

What invitation are you?

{For more about Fay’s movement and magazine – online at www.deliberatelifemag.com, facebook at https://www.facebook.com/deliberatelife, and subscribe on itunes at https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/deliberate-life-magazine/id584626315?mt=8}

Will you come invite with us?

If you are stuck, try this.

Have you ever been at this place where you are stuck?

Unsure of what it is you are passionate about. Unsure of your vision. Unsure of what to do with your day or with your free time.

Unsure of what you are here on earth for.

Along with continuing to seek out your personal journey, try this:

Find some people doing some amazing things in the world, and serve them.

Find a movement (like deliberate life) or socially conscious company or non-profit or whatever – and help them out. Help them live their dreams. You just might find yours in the process.

Sure beats sitting around hoping your dream will somehow miraculously just find you.

The thing we long for most

My wife Sarah and I have been through some interesting times throughout our first 3 years of marriage.

We both started our own businesses within our first year of marriage.

And if you know anything about being an entrepreneur, it can be one of the most gut wrenching things you could do – as Sarah and I both have done quite a bit of soul searching as we are building our businesses and defining the difference we are committed to making in the world.

And in the midst of that, things can get vulnerable pretty quick – cutting to the core as one day I feel like I am right on track and the next day I can’t seem to find any track at all (and along with that being connected with Sarah and where she is at in her processing).

Have you ever been there?

And even in the midst of this, I want to want Sarah (and my friends) to see me.

At the moments I am most afraid of it, I long for it.

And I am convinced I cannot have intimacy without risking in relationship.

So here I am, fearing others seeing me, and yet being in need of risking for others as well.

How willing am I? To press on, risking with others, amidst the fear, the shame, the soul searching, the identity crisis, etc.

All I know is – it will not happen without risk.

So here we go.

Choosing to be disappointed

I dare you try this out.

Carry around an index card and every time you say the word “should,” write it down.

You’d be surprised at the correlation between the amount of “shoulds” and the amount of disappointment in your life.

What if you let go of how it “should” look and just looked for the provision in how it is?

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